If you’re like me, you think someone telling you to wear a more modest swimsuit or to “cover up more” is offensive. You think modesty takes away your freedom (Galatians 5:13). After all, God created us to love who we are, why can’t we just show off a little? My body is beautiful; I should be able to do what I want with it, why should I listen to these “radical” Christian leaders who tell me otherwise?
Oh sweet, sweet friend. I hear you. I was you. But I want to share some truth that will shatter those misconceived ideas and that bitterness you have when you hear the word “modesty.”
No, God isn’t calling you to a life of shame. Modesty isn’t about covering up because you are ashamed of your body, but about value. It’s about loving your body and yourself because you were created in his image to be loved fully by God and your husband alone (Genesis 1:27, 1Corinthians7:4).
No, God isn’t calling you to stop everyone and their brother from sinning. You aren’t responsible for someone else’s sin. However, you are called to value the hearts of your brothers and sisters (1Corinthians 8:9).
No, you aren’t called to hide from the camera and hide from feeling beautiful just because you are worried about someone comparing themselves to you. You are called to be real, to be loving, and to be transparent in your heart motives (2Corinthians 6:3).
Modesty is about your heart. Modesty is about value (Matthew 10:31, Psalm 139:14, 1Corinthians 6:19-20). Modesty is about setting an example for all those beautiful young girls trying to figure out how to get attention. What kind of message are we sending to these little souls if we say it’s okay to show off on social media to get attention from boys? That message sends her into a spiral leading to heartbreak (Matthew 18:6-7). It tells her that her value is on how much she shows off and who responds. It tells her that her value comes only from the attention from the world.
Modesty says her value is SO much more. Her value is in her soul, created to be a vessel of the Holy Spirit. Modesty isn’t about losing yourself; it’s about loving yourself.
— Cami Hall (@joybyjesus) August 6, 2017
So I want to hear from you. What preconceived notions do you have about modesty? Does it make you angry? Or do you feel valued by it? Do you feel torn by feminism and God’s word? Inbox me your thoughts, I want to hear your struggles, and though I don’t have all the answers, I’m here to help you find them.
Here are some resources I’ve found to help me come up with my biblical understanding of modern modesty:
- Biblical Definition of Modesty from covenanteyes.com
- Why Modesty is Worth It by Phylicia Masonheimer
- 5 Myths About Modesty by Phylicia Masonheimer
Check out my Pinterest Board “Fashionably Modest” for simple ways to be fashionably modest!
Colossians 3:23-24 “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”